When To Go From Casual Dating to A Serious Relationship
To absolutely know a person, you must get to know them first. It is so easy to fall into the trap of thinking the person you are attracted to is the best match. But be cautious when first dating with this mindset since it can prevent you from seeing who this person actually is. Eventually, with time, you should have an idea if the person you are talking to is someone you would like to pursue a relationship with or cut off from your dating list.
You both equally put the same effort and time
You both communicate along the way what each person is looking for in a relationship, which communication style they have, and what they need in a lasting partner.
You have seen how they act when any problems arise and how they resolve problems around them
You both slow down the pace when dating each other
You both equally put the same effort and time
Dating should be an experience where both sides want to be with each other. Neither the girl nor the guy should feel as if they are doing all the work. For instance, it should look something like this:
Texting patterns between the both of you match the same energy and reciprocation.
Making plans to consistently meet up and not flake last minute.
Flirting and conversations when on a date are not one-sided.
2. You both Communicate during the talking stage what each person is looking for in a relationship, which communication style they have, and what they need in a lasting partner.
Another way to know when to shift into a more serious relationship with the person you are talking to is to communicate beforehand what YOUR emotional and relationship needs are to make it a more wholesome relationship. So let them know what your expectations are and what kind of relationship you would want to achieve. And you cannot forget to make sure they support your goals, your imperfections and who you are authentically.
3. You got a little taste of how they act when any mini problems arise or how they resolve problems.
Hopefully, you do not experience any problematic situations when you start dating someone new. But, through time (and once you get comfortable with someone), it is normal when disagreements show up from time to time. Notice and observe how they act when those conflicts make an appearance. Do they react almost immediately with a hot head? Or is their response calmer and more easygoing? Do they take things personally? Or do they understand that it is you two vs. the problem? Because quite honestly, I believe you should feel comfortable to express yourself just as the other person should be able to express themselves too.
4. TAKE. THINGS. SLOW!
Please take things slow! The rushing exciting feeling when you first are talking to someone whose company you enjoy can make you overlook any potential signs that you two will not work as a couple. When shifting the pace slowly, you can enjoy the time with them but at the same time, be true to yourself. Are they really your ideal partner that meets your needs? Or are you only going based on your feelings at that moment?
Once you checked off all the boxes on this blog post, I can confidently say that you are ready to move on exclusively! With time you see the person who they truly are, communicate what you need in a relationship, equally show the same level of interest, and put the same amount of effort. Go on now, ask her or him to be your partner :) And, Goodluck and Keep Glowin’!